I have ideas for new blog posts, however, I haven’t had the time to compose them. I want to write one on music and the sound track to my life. Here’s a post (written November 22, 2005, when I was living and working in the States) I’m recycling (from a previous blog) on music, memories, and connections:
My older sister was in the States for three weeks on business. She and I got to hang out a few times but her schedule was tight and hectic. She spent her first and last weekend in the country with me.
Since her wedding in 2000 this was the first time we were hanging out by ourselves. It was, in some ways like being children again, but without having to ask the parental unit for permission to do things! It’s really wonderful to have siblings. We reminisced about the way we fought and the things the three of us did as children. We have a shared history; my sisters and I are the only ones that can truly understand our parents and why we turned out the way we did. (I personally think the three of us turned out great, but I guess that doesn’t count.)
You know the word association tests? Well, I think if we had word-memory responses the three of us would come up with similar, if not the same, answers.
So Anvita and I were in the car and she was trying to find a radio station she liked. She stopped on 102.7 because Madonna’s “Borderline” was playing. She increased the volume and we both began shouting out the lyrics in unison. As the song was playing, and we were singing, I had flashbacks to my sisters and me as children.
Anvita, Mitika, and I would get up really early on weekends (only as young children, once we hit our teenage years it was very difficult to wake us up before noon!) as my parents slept in. We’d brush our teeth, creep downstairs, and grab a few lollipops on the way. Once we were downstairs we’d turn on the TV or the radio and jump up and down on the sofas, lollipops in our mouths. We loved Madonna as children (I still do) and we listened to her songs all the time.
Anvita put in the tape (it might have been an LP, I don’t remember clearly). “Borderline” came on and the three of us continued to jump up and down on the sofas hair flying, trying to see who could jump the highest. We sang in unison, laughed when we forgot the lyrics, but still listened for our parents walking down the stairs.
It’s not always easy being a child, and it is most definitely difficult being a daughter and a sister on many occasions. But as “Borderline” played in the car in 2005, and took me back to 1983, something really hit me. It may have been the fact that we’re old now. Adults. Responsible. We are no longer three little people living in a house with two big people. We have our own lives, and Anvita has her own family now…
“Hey, Shruti,” Anvita said mid-thought, “When I hear this song I always think of….”
But we have common memories.
“The parental unit !” I love it.
I think this connection between music and memory is a fascinating topic. So much of my life is wrapped up in songs. I think Madonna’s like a virgin LP was one of my first real explorations of music. I remember being thrilled by how it was somehow, ……..I don’t even know the word for it. I just knew that is was deviant and exciting. I was ten years old and the world was getting bigger.
We should do a series of posts about songs and memory. To keep us motivated. One a month….pinky swear? First one due January 31st.
Feel the silky touch of my caresses
They will keep you looking so brand new
Let me cover you with velvet kisses
I’ll create a look that’s made for you
I was only ten, but I was pretty sure she was talking to me:
The trick of course, is how you carry this forward and make new memories to fall back on? I love 1983! There’s a lot of great stuff floating around in memory. I did of course like Cyndi Lauper more than Madonna. I thought she had a better range. Of course, now that everything can be Googled, where do the good stories come from? Keep listening to that radio and never stop questioning authority! -M
Hi Shruti,
I think you turned out great as well. You’re not a doctor, but . . . oh, you’re not Jewish.
I am usually a bit clueless about popular music, but I listen to music all the time. It’s been a goal of mine, add it to the list, to make a iPhoto musical photo album of different eras in my life with no more than 10 photos for each era. My older brother is no great communicator, but he just sent me a cloud drive of his music. There’s a lot of unspoken discussion in going down the list of songs. In music you are allowed to be so much more emotional than you are allowed to be in real life. If I had a wish, besides long red curly hair, it would be to be able to grab a guitar and sing out my feelings. Jabiz, I accept your challenge.
Chicago – American Pie
Naperville – Rocky Mountain High
Marshall – Piano Man
Independence – Jane Oliver’s Vincent
Seattle 1 – haven’t a clue
@ Jabiz: I pinky promise. I will post a song about music once month. Can do January 31st.
@Jen: I’m also going to put together my soundtrack! I look forward to you accepting the challenge
@ Martin: I think I appreciated Cyndi a lot more as I grew older, but loved Madonna instantly!
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Madonna proved me wrong – at the peak of her popularity in the late 80s I was sure she’d go the way that Cyndi Lauper has. That she’d have a few years at the top and then fade into insignificance. Far from the case, she’s aged gracefully and her voice has ripened with age.
I just read this today! Wow! That was a wonderful trip … ESP. When you joined me in Miami and we drove down to Key West on one of those weekends
I would wanna do that again
Wish I could remember the name of the wine we had. It was so good.
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I agree Andy
Btw Shruti – I just read this today! Wow! That was a wonderful trip … ESP. When you joined me in Miami and we drove down to Key West on one of those weekends
I would wanna do that again
Wish I could remember the name of the wine we had. It was so good.
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